Tuesday, January 19, 2010


Writing was fairly non-existent this week, as I spent the time playing catch up on all of the big life issues we humans seem driven to tackle at the beginning of each year. I’m also a bit of procrastinator (which is why our Christmas cards haven’t gone out yet and are morphing into New Year’s Cards).

So it’s only natural that my New Year’s Resolutions come at the middle of the month instead of the beginning. (Keep in mind, this is better than years past, where resolutions might be made over a green beer on St. Patty’s Day! I get better with age).

I vacillated whether or not to put such a personal post out into the blogosphere, but in the end, I decided that hey—we are all human. We struggle, whether we tell each other we do, or whether we pretend to the world that we don’t. So here are some of my struggles. Don’t worry, I don’t plan to turn Heather’s Historical Hodgepodge into a journal to air my issues. But since it is still January and technically a New Year, I’m allowed. :)

This year, making resolutions was a little harder than some. You see, my birthday is in December and I am now officially closer to 40 than I am 30 and I’m starting to feel the sand slipping a bit. There’s a little more pressure to conquer the personal goals that have always seemed to conquer me. There are the memories of failures past, taunting me…you’ve failed for 35 years, what makes you think this year will be any different? You’re set in your ways…can’t teach an old dog…blah blah blah.

Therefore, instead of writing, I spent the last week making plans. Plans to succeed. What will it take to get healthier so that I can be there for my son when he’s my age and hopefully beyond? How am I going to use my time effectively so that I can be the mother I want to be AND the wife I want to be AND be a successful writer AND get in better shape AND eat/live healthier AND set the life examples I want my son to emulate? How am I going to live in the moment and enjoy life as it comes rather than feeling like I’m on the downhill slide? How am I going to live without fear and guilt, and instead with joy?

I really looked at what has caused me to fail in the past: my expectations of myself, my emotional triggers, my perspective, how I lose control of my days and my time reacting instead of being proactive, how I start so well only to revert back to form. I also had a stern talk with myself: I don’t have to be perfect to succeed, but I do have to plan to succeed. Some days, I’m not going to win them all…that’s no reason to get down or give up. I can be patient and still be persistent. I have to live one day at a time.

Now, here I am, better late than never. It's January 19 and I’m resolved:

I will eliminate most processed foods and make exercise more of a priority (and drink more water, darn it).

I will cut back on my son’s TV time. Yes, it’s just Noggin and yes, everyone’s doing it. But I feel it’s important he not get into the habit.

I will make writing a priority every day…even if only for 30 minutes. Every. Day. (and no, my blog posts do not count). I will get said writing done before checking e-mail, reading blogs, etc.

I will do better at scheduling my days and be more realistic so that at the end, I feel I’ve accomplished something, even if it was only being the best mom I could that day.

I will put more focus on my spirituality.

I will stop and smell the blasted roses.

What are YOU resolved to do in 2010?


  1. Wow, you have really thought this through; you're so thorough! With organization like that, I can't see how you could fail on your resolutions. Just don't forget the blasted roses part!

    But me? Right now, I'm merely resolved to make it through 2010.

  2. Good for you, Heather. Thinking about resolutions if the first step. And everyone falls down once in a while. When that happens, you don't beat yourself up, you just start again. The only person who never fails is the person who never tries. Best of luck.

  3. Oh, yes. Life gets in the way and priorities have to be set. Success is what you'll accept and what you make it. I love being published, even if it's not by a "big" publisher. I've reached my goal of being published, and am enjoying the ride.
    All that said, my family comes first. Always will. Writing comes second. Seeing to the needs of my family, health and happiness are my goals, along with hoping to write more books.

  4. I am resolved to do things just a little better than I did them before, but not to overreach and set myself up for failure. But mostly I just want to enjoy the ride.

  5. One of your goals is mind, Heather. I will write every day before I get on email. Smile.

    Family must come first, or you may miss out.

  6. I resolve to remember my daughter is thirteen not three and shift my parenting accordingly.

    I resolve to NOT beat myself up about the should'a, would'a, could'a and let the past go.

    I resolve to relax and smell the tulips, daffodils and daisies along with the roses.

  7. Linda K - thanks for coming by. You've got the right attitude. Believe me, this first year with that new baby, survival is all you need to worry about ;)

    Linda B - so nice to see you and thanks so much for the encouragement! I hope your new year is lovely

    April - nice thoughts and so true about family. I wish you continued success.

    Katy - You're gonna do great! Enjoy that ride, woman :)

    Sandy - it's so hard to make ourselves write before getting online, isn't it? Darned addictive Internet...it should come with a warning label. So should the iPhone

    Keri - tulips and daphodils and roses, oh my!

  8. Omg...I spelled daffodils wrong. Too late at night for me. Maybe I should make spell checking a resolution, too. Argh....

  9. Heather,
    We are sister you and I suffering from some of the same affliction so you have my support. I'm sending you warm wishes of success, paryers of happy resolve and a BIG HUG. You can do it! I have no doubt but it you falter or loss a little focus in the year ahead because of life's trials know that you haven't failed just delayed. You are going to do great.
    All my very best,

  10. I am resolved to write every day! (And to read every day!)

    Best of luck with your goals!


    from the desk of a writer